18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.

1 Corinthians 6:18 | NIV

3 It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 | NIV

Sanctified (past tense) definition

• Set apart as or declare holy; consecrate.

• Make legitimate or binding by a religious ceremony.

• Free from sin; purify.

The generic meaning of sanctification is “the state of proper functioning.” To sanctify someone or something is to set that person or thing apart for the use intended by its designer. A pen is “sanctified” when used to write. Eyeglasses are “sanctified” when used to improve sight. In the theological sense, things are sanctified when they are used for the purpose God intends. A human being is sanctified, therefore, when he or she lives according to God’s design and purpose.

Sanctification (living according to God’s plan) in marriage then is a healthy sexual relationship; initiated by both parties. We need to recognize it as a healthy, God created need that we have; to procreate and enjoy each others company and create intimacy. When we do not have a healthy sexual relationship, one or both partners suffer with sin.

What causes unhealthy sexual relationships?

• Low libido on one or more of the partners.

• A lack of understanding from one or more of the partners of the importance or a healthy sexual intimacy.

• Our business in life neglecting intimacy.

• Lack of leadership from the husband initiating a romantic dating life after getting married. A wife also initiating.

• Laziness in just not making the effort to make it great.

• Understanding a healthy intimacy relationship (The marriage bed kept pure) helps us go to heaven. An unhealthy intimacy relationship leads to divorce, murder, break in trust, sin like adultery, lust, sexual immorality & masturbation.

Tips for healthy sanctification

• Go to bed the same time.

• Praying together daily.

• Make notes on your phone of ideas.

• Kids go to bed earlier in the night for some alone time in their own room.

• Closeness in the relationships helps with intimacy. Emotionally connected by spending fun times together.

• Make notes on good point bad points on your phone.

Sexual immorality definition

From the Greek por·neiʹa, a general term for all unlawful sexual intercourse. It includes adultery, prostitution, sexual relations between unmarried individuals, homosexuality, and bestiality.

This word is also translated as “whoredom,” “fornication,” and “idolatry.” It means “a surrendering of sexual purity”, and it is primarily used of premarital sexual relations. From this Greek word we get the English word pornography, stemming from the concept of “selling off.” Sexual immorality is the “selling off” of sexual purity and involves any type of sexual expression outside the boundaries of a biblically defined marriage relationship

13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

1 Corinthians 10:13 | NIV

Having temptation and then sinning is no excuse. Temptation is common and we all have them pretty much the same. God always provide a way out, the question is; are we looking for the way out or use the temptation as an excuse to fall into sin.

4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

Hebrews 13:4 | NIV

God wants even the marriage bed to be kept pure. Judgement for the adulterer & sexually immoral.

28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Matthew 5:28 | NIV

Lust = Adultery in ur heart. Judgement for the adulterer Heb 13:4.

Lust definition

• Longing desire; eagerness to possess or enjoy; – in a had sense; as, the lust of gain.

• Licentious craving; a strong sexual appetite.

• To have an eager, passionate, and especially an inordinate or sinful desire, as for the gratification of the sexual appetite or of covetousness; – often with after.

• A strong sexual desire.

• Self-indulgent sexual desire (personified as one of the deadly sins)

• Have a craving, appetite, or great desire for sth.

Adultery definition

• The unfaithfulness of a married person to the marriage bed; sexual intercourse by a married man with another than his wife, or voluntary sexual intercourse by a married woman with another than her husband.

• Adulteration; corruption.

• Less or unchastity of thought as well as act.

11 In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. 12 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. 13 Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. 14 For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.

Romans 6:11-14 | NIV

• Consider myself dead to sin.

• Consider myself alive to God.

• I need to not let sin reign in my body, to make me obey it’s passions.

• Present my members to God as instruments of righteousness, because I have been been brought from death to life.

• Under the law sin has dominion over me.

• Under grace sin has no dominion over me.

19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and sensuality; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Galatians 5:19-21 | NIV

• Works of the flesh is evident.

Impurity definition

• Not pure; not clean; dirty; foul; filthy; containing something which is unclean or unwholesome; mixed or impregnated extraneous substances; adulterated; as, impure water or air; impure drugs, food, etc.

• Defiled by sin or guilt; unholy; unhallowed; – said of persons or things.

• Immoral or obscene; “impure thoughts”

Sensuality definition

The quality or state of being sensual; devotedness to the gratification of the bodily appetites; free indulgence in carnal or sensual pleasures; luxuriousness; voluptuousness; lewdness.

8 Even if I caused you sorrow by my letter, I do not regret it. Though I did regret it—I see that my letter hurt you, but only for a little while— 9 yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry, but because your sorrow led you to repentance. For you became sorrowful as God intended and so were not harmed in any way by us. 10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. 11 See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.

2 Corinthians 7:8-11 | NIV

• Have you ever had a burglar in your house? All of a sudden you hear something in the house and you are awake (earnestness). You realize it is a burglar and just need to get this guy out of your house and your family safe (eagerness to clear yourself). You come around the corner and see you TV is gone and are pretty ticked off (indignation). Sitting quietly around the corner you hear footsteps and low and behold there is 3 guys in your house (alarm). How you wish you had that alarm installed last week (longing). Now you see them coming down the hall towards your kids bedrooms (concern). You quickly slip into your study, open the safe and get your guns (readyness to see justice done).

• Godly sorrow produces things in you not worldly sorrow. So if I feel sorry but do not change it is worldly sorrow.

• So how will you know that you have Godly sorrow? Earnestness, eagerness clearing yourself, indignation, alarm, longing, concern, readiness to see justice done.

• It is the Godly sorrow that made you repent. Not feeling sorry for yourself (worldly sorrow)

• Worldly sorrow = End result is you go to Hell. Godly sorrow = End result you go to to Heaven.

Sorrow definition

• To feel pain of mind in consequence of evil experienced, feared, or done; to grieve; to be sad; to be sorry.

• An emotion of great sadness associated with loss or bereavement.

• Emotions experienced when not in a state of well-being.

• Intense sorrow caused by loss of a loved one.

• A feeling of sorrow (often self-indulgent) over your own sufferings – self pity.

• Sadness associated with some wrong done or some disappointment.

• Something that causes great unhappiness.

• The state of being sad.

Godly definition

• Showing great reverence for God.

• Pious; reverencing God, and his character and laws; obedient to the commands of God from love for, and reverence of, his character; conformed to God’s law; devout; righteous; as, a godly life.

Reverence definition

• A feeling of profound respect for someone or something; “the fear of God”.

• Profound respect and esteem mingled with fear and affection, as for a holy being or place

References:

1. https://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/bible-glossary/sexual-immorality/

2. https://www.google.co.za/amp/s/www.gotquestions.org/amp/sexual-immorality.html

3. https://bit.ly/2vxtiz2